GETTING IT RIGHT WITH LOVE

LOVE. The four letter words that has more poems, stories and sermons written about it than any other word. This emotion that many feel its straightforward has proven trickier than we feel it should be. 

We're told to love our neighbors as ourselves, love our fellow man, that love conquers all and also makes the world go round, sometimes, people say love is all we need.

If you are reading this article, you already know fully well that love is much, much more complex than you loving your family and friends and they loving you right back, finding a partner whom you love and who loves you too and you don't have to try – love just happens.
Love is much more complex than all these. 

Love always has its complications especially between people simply because people are complicated.

Love is often involved in our highest highs and deepest lows, it can be tried, tested and stretched to its limits. So as not to love the wrong person and waste precious time, we struggle to find it and get it right.

Below are tips on how to get it right with love. 

1) Be Yourself

When you meet a new person, it's so tempting to change yourself and try to be who you think they are looking for. You either become really silent and mysterious or sophisticated. 

When they find out in few weeks, months or years, when you finally crack that you've been lurking behind some sham personality you created they won't be very impressed and neither would you. 

Be yourself, get it all out in the open now when you can. If you are not who they are looking for you won't get too deep before that find out, if you fake it, you'll attract the wrong person. 

Somewhere out there is someone who wants exactly the kind of person you are —who'll see your flaws and failings as a part of your unique charm and they'll be right for you and love you. 

2) Leave A Partner Who Doesn't Care 

Some people are great at being partners while some aren't. Once they've known you through all seasons, they settle into taking you for granted. 

They stop noticing you once the relationship is secure and go back to thinking about themselves, they expect you to look out for them, listen to them but they are very reluctant to reciprocate. 

You deserve a partner who makes you feel special because you are and they want you to know it. If your partner cares about you, they'll make it very clear with no doubt whatsoever in your mind. 

If your partner doesn't care about you now, taking bigger steps like moving in together or getting married will only make it worse. 

Somewhere out there is someone who will care for you properly in every sense. Don't throw yourself away on someone who won't. It will damage your confidence and your self esteem over the years, as well as making you unhappy.

So do yourself a favour and wait for someone better to come along.

3) Chill Before Making Major Decisions 

In a new relationship, we do our best to present the most positive things to our new partner. Everyone does this, it takes time to know someone well enough to drop your guard. 

You are not going to find out immediately if your partner is controlling, rude to your friends or abusive. Some of these things can be put up with, some can't – before you can make a decision on this you have to know what you are dealing with. 

A year is a reasonable length of time to know someone through all seasons before making any major decisions like living together, getting married or having kids etc. 

If you are really with the right person, waiting 12 months to decide your future will be worth it, what's a year compared to a lifetime. Why not relax and have fun. 

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