Make Him Worry About Losing You
In this post, you'll learn how to make a man worry about losing you so if you are in a relationship and you worry about being taken for granted, unappreciated and want to remind him of your value and importance in his life this is for you.
How to make a man worry about losing you.
First, why is it important for a man to worry about losing you?
Well, here is a huge statement that many find controversial, if your man never experiences any worries of fear of losing you he will never fall deeply in love with you. In a different way if he never worries or fears that he could lose you or you could leave him he'll never love you the way that he should.
So if you are feeling taken for granted or he is not really showing you the love and affection that he once did...here are 7 tips that will make him worry about losing you and turn things around in your relationship.
1) Let go of your anger and stop talking about feeling unappreciated.
I know this one is difficult to do but essential. Let me explain, when you feel like he is taking you for granted or doesn't appreciate you it's only natural to feel angry, you'll want to talk about it and it absolutely makes sense.
This might turn things around but only for a while, however if things don't change continually bringing up your complaints will only make things worse and despite all the talk nothing changes and everything becomes more difficult.
He sees you complaining and nagging at him so you should try not to bring up this topic again at least not yet.
If you continue to bring this up you could sabotage your chances of turning the situation around. So despite how you are feeling he must not know that you are upset, sad or worried. After you do these steps he'll be the one missing you and appreciating you, he'll be the one bringing it up himself.
2) Prioritize Your Fitness
It is not uncommon for couples in a relationship to put on some extra pounds and make general fitness less of a priority.
People get comfortable with one another and place less emphasis on being in their best and attractive physical shape. So if you gained a few pounds and you don't have the same hourglass figure you had when you met your man, getting back into shape will be certainty what he'll notice and appreciate. So join a gym or start following a particular workout program and make it a priority and make sure he understands how important this is to you and that you have a particular fitness or size goals to meet.
Now he should be happy you are making these changes but he's also gonna know you are going to be more attractive to everyone other men included so don't be surprised if he makes comments or ask why you are trying to look so good, if your physical fitness hasn't changed at all since you've being in your relationship you can still share with him an increased level of enthusiasm about your fitness and then do this next thing
3) Add more glamour to your looks
When in a relationship, it's common for people to get so comfortable that they let their appearance fade, if this resonates with you it's time to start glamorizing the way you look with him and when you are not with him, dress well and make sure your hair is glowing and also look your best.
He's gonna notice when other men are paying more attention to you and that's going to remind that other men find you attractive.
Now if you are a person that's always looking your best consider making a change in the way you look perhaps you could change your hair colour or your hair length or your style of clothing or make up just make sure it's enough of a change he'll notice and it's a change that makes you look sexier and glamorous.
The psychology behind this are in two folds
First he's going to be wondering why you made the significant change in the way that you look, he is going to be questioning why it's so important for you to look better and different and he is going to be questioning if it's because you want to be attractive to other men and again this is going to provoke just a little fear that someone else could take his place.
The second thing that happens when you change the way you look or the way that you dress, he going to be wondering if you are also changing your feelings about him.
Before I go on to the fourth tip, I wanna explain further on why the fear of losing you is essential to him falling in love and staying in love with you.
In the beginning of most dating relationship and before any commitments are made, both people are working towards gaining the affection and trust of their partner that's because when we like someone we show them in hopes that our feelings are being reciprocated so we are motivated to show our love by our desire to have this other person.
The more we like someone the more effort we put into someone or something the more we appreciate and like them as a result.
What happens when a man has no fear of a woman leaving him, well, then half of his motivation is removed and he no longer has to try so hard, he no longer has to work on securing your love and affection.
If he has no fears of ever losing you, he knows that he doesn't have to be on top of his game and you'll still be there so he takes you for granted, he under appreciates you and no longer works so hard at making the relationship great that's when you need to gently remind him of your value in his life.
You don't have to purposely make him feel jealous or play manipulative love games. No,these tips are all based and focusing on you and prioritizing you and looking amazing, feeling amazing and reminding him what an amazing woman you are and he must work on keeping you interested in him.
4) Resurrect Your Social Life
Resurrect your social life outside of his, have fun away from your man, do something for you, take up a new hobby or do something that you enjoy.
This forces him to recognise that you are independent that you not just sitting by the phone waiting for his calls.
Remember, one of the most important things that men find attractive in women in independence, he's got to know how full and independent your life is and if he wants to be a part of it,its because you want him to be a part of it not because you need him to be.
So, make sure you are keeping up with the life you had prior to meeting him. Be yourself and make yourself a priority. Make and keep plans with your girlfriends and keep your schedule busy.
This goes a long way to helping him see you as a high value woman with an exciting life and when you do that he is going to want to be a part of your life and when he isn't a part he is going to feel that too, so when he calls you last minute to make plans Oops Sorry I have plans, this will make him prioritize and plan his time with you.
He will also begin to recognize that he does not get the privilege of calling you or asking you to go out when he's bored.
He has to earn back that high priority status, so, make other plans and he will remember how you used to be available for him when he prioritized his relationship.
5) Connect With Him Emotionally
Connect with him on an emotionally intimate level.
What I'm saying is that you create a safe space for him to be emotionally intimate, think back to a time when you felt really close to your partner or a time when you felt you could tell him your deepest secret and it would be totally accepted.
We all need that deep connection with someone and those deep and wonderful feelings of intimacy flourish in an atmosphere of safety.
We open up when we are safe so create a safe zone for him to be freely expressive, for him to be himself.
That means being someone who is very accepting, caring and compassionate. When he is connected to you on an emotionally intimate level, he'll definitely miss you when he feels disconnected after all you want him to be lonely for you and loneliness is a feeling we get in our heart when we want intimacy and to be connected with someone but no one is available or willing to connect.
6) Talk When The Time Is Right
Having the talk when the time is right is super important. If you've done this steps correctly your boyfriend will recognise the change, become concerned and even object to it, that's a good thing.
You want him to recognise and remember that he has an amazing woman.
If he doesn't notice the changes that's when you should be concerned but when he notices he is either going to step up his game and become more loving like he used to be or he's going to bring up what he noticed and want to have a conversation about it which is perfect.
When he does, be clear and honest about what you want and your expectation for the relationship.
7) Be Willing To Walk Away
You must be willing to walk away from someone or something if it isn't working.
You can't lie to yourself that although he isn't what you are looking for that he'll change or things would get better, believe me it won't if anything it would only get worse.
He need to feel that you aren't willing to settle or tolerate behaviours or actions of his that you do not agree with.
In addition, in order for him to really appreciate you, he needs to experience the fear of love, essentially the fear of losing you. The fear will even be greater if you are at your best self because this type of fear is rooted in love but he will only experience this if he knows that you are willing to walk away from something that isn't right for you.
Remember how relationships should be exciting, passionate and easy.
When you really like someone you want them to know how valuable and important the relationship is and you want to know that your feelings are being reciprocated so you treat them with as much affection and consideration as you can and that is exactly how you should be treated in return.
Don't settle for anything less.
How to make a man worry about losing you.
First, why is it important for a man to worry about losing you?
Well, here is a huge statement that many find controversial, if your man never experiences any worries of fear of losing you he will never fall deeply in love with you. In a different way if he never worries or fears that he could lose you or you could leave him he'll never love you the way that he should.
So if you are feeling taken for granted or he is not really showing you the love and affection that he once did...here are 7 tips that will make him worry about losing you and turn things around in your relationship.
1) Let go of your anger and stop talking about feeling unappreciated.
I know this one is difficult to do but essential. Let me explain, when you feel like he is taking you for granted or doesn't appreciate you it's only natural to feel angry, you'll want to talk about it and it absolutely makes sense.
This might turn things around but only for a while, however if things don't change continually bringing up your complaints will only make things worse and despite all the talk nothing changes and everything becomes more difficult.
He sees you complaining and nagging at him so you should try not to bring up this topic again at least not yet.
If you continue to bring this up you could sabotage your chances of turning the situation around. So despite how you are feeling he must not know that you are upset, sad or worried. After you do these steps he'll be the one missing you and appreciating you, he'll be the one bringing it up himself.
2) Prioritize Your Fitness
It is not uncommon for couples in a relationship to put on some extra pounds and make general fitness less of a priority.
People get comfortable with one another and place less emphasis on being in their best and attractive physical shape. So if you gained a few pounds and you don't have the same hourglass figure you had when you met your man, getting back into shape will be certainty what he'll notice and appreciate. So join a gym or start following a particular workout program and make it a priority and make sure he understands how important this is to you and that you have a particular fitness or size goals to meet.
Now he should be happy you are making these changes but he's also gonna know you are going to be more attractive to everyone other men included so don't be surprised if he makes comments or ask why you are trying to look so good, if your physical fitness hasn't changed at all since you've being in your relationship you can still share with him an increased level of enthusiasm about your fitness and then do this next thing
3) Add more glamour to your looks
When in a relationship, it's common for people to get so comfortable that they let their appearance fade, if this resonates with you it's time to start glamorizing the way you look with him and when you are not with him, dress well and make sure your hair is glowing and also look your best.
He's gonna notice when other men are paying more attention to you and that's going to remind that other men find you attractive.
Now if you are a person that's always looking your best consider making a change in the way you look perhaps you could change your hair colour or your hair length or your style of clothing or make up just make sure it's enough of a change he'll notice and it's a change that makes you look sexier and glamorous.
The psychology behind this are in two folds
First he's going to be wondering why you made the significant change in the way that you look, he is going to be questioning why it's so important for you to look better and different and he is going to be questioning if it's because you want to be attractive to other men and again this is going to provoke just a little fear that someone else could take his place.
The second thing that happens when you change the way you look or the way that you dress, he going to be wondering if you are also changing your feelings about him.
Before I go on to the fourth tip, I wanna explain further on why the fear of losing you is essential to him falling in love and staying in love with you.
In the beginning of most dating relationship and before any commitments are made, both people are working towards gaining the affection and trust of their partner that's because when we like someone we show them in hopes that our feelings are being reciprocated so we are motivated to show our love by our desire to have this other person.
The more we like someone the more effort we put into someone or something the more we appreciate and like them as a result.
What happens when a man has no fear of a woman leaving him, well, then half of his motivation is removed and he no longer has to try so hard, he no longer has to work on securing your love and affection.
If he has no fears of ever losing you, he knows that he doesn't have to be on top of his game and you'll still be there so he takes you for granted, he under appreciates you and no longer works so hard at making the relationship great that's when you need to gently remind him of your value in his life.
You don't have to purposely make him feel jealous or play manipulative love games. No,these tips are all based and focusing on you and prioritizing you and looking amazing, feeling amazing and reminding him what an amazing woman you are and he must work on keeping you interested in him.
4) Resurrect Your Social Life
Resurrect your social life outside of his, have fun away from your man, do something for you, take up a new hobby or do something that you enjoy.
This forces him to recognise that you are independent that you not just sitting by the phone waiting for his calls.
Remember, one of the most important things that men find attractive in women in independence, he's got to know how full and independent your life is and if he wants to be a part of it,its because you want him to be a part of it not because you need him to be.
So, make sure you are keeping up with the life you had prior to meeting him. Be yourself and make yourself a priority. Make and keep plans with your girlfriends and keep your schedule busy.
This goes a long way to helping him see you as a high value woman with an exciting life and when you do that he is going to want to be a part of your life and when he isn't a part he is going to feel that too, so when he calls you last minute to make plans Oops Sorry I have plans, this will make him prioritize and plan his time with you.
He will also begin to recognize that he does not get the privilege of calling you or asking you to go out when he's bored.
He has to earn back that high priority status, so, make other plans and he will remember how you used to be available for him when he prioritized his relationship.
5) Connect With Him Emotionally
Connect with him on an emotionally intimate level.
What I'm saying is that you create a safe space for him to be emotionally intimate, think back to a time when you felt really close to your partner or a time when you felt you could tell him your deepest secret and it would be totally accepted.
We all need that deep connection with someone and those deep and wonderful feelings of intimacy flourish in an atmosphere of safety.
We open up when we are safe so create a safe zone for him to be freely expressive, for him to be himself.
That means being someone who is very accepting, caring and compassionate. When he is connected to you on an emotionally intimate level, he'll definitely miss you when he feels disconnected after all you want him to be lonely for you and loneliness is a feeling we get in our heart when we want intimacy and to be connected with someone but no one is available or willing to connect.
6) Talk When The Time Is Right
Having the talk when the time is right is super important. If you've done this steps correctly your boyfriend will recognise the change, become concerned and even object to it, that's a good thing.
You want him to recognise and remember that he has an amazing woman.
If he doesn't notice the changes that's when you should be concerned but when he notices he is either going to step up his game and become more loving like he used to be or he's going to bring up what he noticed and want to have a conversation about it which is perfect.
When he does, be clear and honest about what you want and your expectation for the relationship.
7) Be Willing To Walk Away
You must be willing to walk away from someone or something if it isn't working.
You can't lie to yourself that although he isn't what you are looking for that he'll change or things would get better, believe me it won't if anything it would only get worse.
He need to feel that you aren't willing to settle or tolerate behaviours or actions of his that you do not agree with.
In addition, in order for him to really appreciate you, he needs to experience the fear of love, essentially the fear of losing you. The fear will even be greater if you are at your best self because this type of fear is rooted in love but he will only experience this if he knows that you are willing to walk away from something that isn't right for you.
Remember how relationships should be exciting, passionate and easy.
When you really like someone you want them to know how valuable and important the relationship is and you want to know that your feelings are being reciprocated so you treat them with as much affection and consideration as you can and that is exactly how you should be treated in return.
Don't settle for anything less.
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